Welcome Back Everyone!! So happy to have you with me on this journey and cannot wait to share my secret with you this week. This project, Finding Happy, has profoundly impacted my life in such a positive way that I have to tell you something that you may not know. All of this – the blog, the posts, the videos, the putting myself out there and challenging myself every day are steps toward my happy, and a piece of my definition of that happy is fulfilling my dream of writing a book. My secret, is that each step has most definitely not been planned, detailed or even completely thought out. You know why? Not that it doesn’t take some planning, dedication or work, because it does, but sometimes you cannot plan on how dreams unfold, and if you just surrender to the possibilities, your intuition or gut, instead of controlling every twist and turn, if it was meant to be, I unshakably believe, it will be 😊
This week I want to talk more about your dreams, your goals and how if we see ourselves in our minds eye living out those dreams, they will come into our lives if they were meant to happen. Whether it’s psychological, cosmic or the path of our life that progressively shows itself to us as we walk our journey, if we dream, we can choose to make those dreams come alive. When I first started this blog, I didn’t have an outline or a plan, there are days when I start to write and have no idea what I’m going to say (like today), but somehow it comes to me. I was meant to write and although there have been struggles with self-doubt, I relentlessly keep coming back and each time it just gets better. I now guest post on a wonderful blog, a positive website, and my own site is gaining traction and followers, on top of all the amazing connections and friends I have made along the way. All of this because I am taking one day at a time to find my happy, my voice and myself, and now wholeheartedly believe that nothing is impossible.
Don’t ever feel your dreams are too big or too crazy and don’t EVER give up on your goals or yourself. Follow your heart, ignite your spark and allow it to burn with passion. Someone told me one time that someone once said, we know when we have found our passion when we are willing to do it for free…My wish for you is to find that passion or that dream, whatever it may be!!!
With that said, let’s start off our week with another list so you can see your dreams on paper and realize that you can make them happen…
Day 1 – Monday
Get Out Those Journals. I know we started last Monday with our journals and feel its not a bad way begin. This week however, instead of goals for yourself, make a Bucket List. List the things you want to do, see, say or experience before you leave this world. Do you want to see the Grand Canyon, swim with dolphins, sky dive, visit a foreign country, drink a beer at an Irish Pub, see the aurora borealis, lay under a star lit sky just because, walk a black sand beach or attend a yoga retreat, write it down. Write a list of at least ten and if there is more, keep writing. You can say one day, one day I will…when the time is right, but the time to acknowledge your bucket list is now. Write it down, hang it up, keep it to yourself, but acknowledge your dreams and then just like with your goals, take small steps every day closer to one of those dreams.
Acknowledge a Negative in Your Life and Let it. We all have bad habits, we all carry negatives around that snuff out the light in our lives, sometimes without us even realizing. It could be a that we drink too much, we smoke when we don’t even want to, we watch too much mindless TV or we are judgmental to others. Pick just one, focus on it and list reasons why you do it and reason why you shouldn’t and study your answers. Then, think about how this habit positively affects your life. If it doesn’t, make a plan to remove it. This may not be as easy as I make it sound, but sometimes all it takes is to see how this habit negatively affects your life to choose to change it. Much luck on this one, I know it can be challenging, but I believe in you.
Do Something Healthy for Your Body. This kinda of goes hand in hand with yesterday, but it’s a good one! I know you thought this one was over since we did this last month, but surprise. Get up, get moving or chose to eat healthy, even if it’s just for today. Baby steps are still steps. Go for a walk, take a class, go to the Y and swim some laps. Your physical health is important to your mental health and the more we take the steps to make it important the more it becomes important, and soon it’s a positive, healthy habit instead of a forced one.
Take Steps Toward a Goal. Okay, now that you’ve acknowledged your goals on your vision board, go take a long look at it. Take it in and pick one of those goals and sit down and think about what it would take to reach that goal. Once you’ve wrapped your head around it, write them down, then work on accomplishing the first step on that list. Don’t overwhelm yourself, it only needs to be a baby step, but a baby step is still a step in the direction of your ultimate goal. You got this!
Pick a Space and Make it Positive. Last week we uncluttered a space, this week, let’s make a space ours. When I decided to change the atmosphere of my cubicle at work to a positive one, the mood within the hours and days spent at that desk shifted. It’s brighter, calmer and positive. Pick a space whether it be a bedroom, bathroom, office or cubicle and change it. Change the color, make it yours, make it reflect a happy space, a space you can’t wait to spend time in. Sometimes all we need is a little change to shift our moods. Today, pick that space and shift with a little change of surroundings.
Give Back/Volunteer/Pay it Forward. It’s Saturday and you know what that means!! It’s a fantastic day to give back. This is a weekly task and will continue to be for good reason. When we give back to others the feeling that fills you up is inexplainable. It is a completely different level of happy because you are giving happy to another. This can be done simply, or it can be dedicated time in the day, however you want to do it, but do something for someone else today, without expecting anything in return.
**Remember, these acts of kindness do not have to be extravagant. Pay for a coffee, carry some groceries, donate, volunteer or just be kind without expecting anything in return.
Reflection/Self-Care. Love this day. Today is the day to connect with your why and your inner thoughts and emotions. Today is the day to remember the amazing person you are. Spend this day to take a moment to reflect on your week, and on why you chose to practice positive. Use this day to meditate, pray, read, sleep, or just sit in the quiet to calm your mind, hear your heart, and connect to yourself so you are ready for the week ahead. I know life can get busy, but please do not skip this day, it’s so very important for your well-being and for your soul.
***Please share some good books, I’m looking for a new one to read!!
Choose positive, choose kindness, choose gratitude and choose to have an amazing day every day this week. Don’t look away from your dreams, follow your heart and believe in yourself. You truly are amazing and capable of amazing things. Allow yourself to shine and you may surprise yourself 😊
As usual, I will be posting on the Finding Happy One Day at a Time Facebook Page throughout the week to check in on you all and would love to hear from you so don’t be shy!! Keep writing in your journals, it’s so important!! Thank you for sticking with me or just joining me on this journey, it is my hope to persuade you to alter your thoughts, even a little, in a more positive direction, while you help me find my happy too!!