FINDING HAPPY, ONE DAY AT A TIME – The End but Just the Beginning

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Wow, wow. I can’t even believe that tomorrow marks three whole months since I began the Finding Happy posts along with the Facebook group challenge. This life “project” began as a way to spread positivity, light and love into a world that desperately needs it, but never did I imagine how my own life would shift in the process, and I am overwhelmed with joy. My intention when I began was to encourage hope, healing, and living, and to remind you to believe in yourselves, your strengths and the incredible light inside.

To my surprise, as I walked this path with all of you, I found pieces of me I was never aware of, desires I didn’t know I had, and scars that needed healing. And, while I completed my own personal “paper” goal of posting in the group every day for 90 days, I also accomplished internal goals by facing my fears, reflecting on my past and overcoming giant mental and emotional obstacles that blocked my way to my true path. In addition to these enormous steps in my own life, I have also had the privilege of reconnecting with old friends, making new ones and have had the opportunity to hear your stories of gratitude, kindness, fears and inspiration along the way. There are no words to describe the fullness of my heart.

I cautiously began this journey years ago, but the shift that took place this time around when I jumped in both feet, was a shift I am eternally grateful to have experienced. They say 21 days makes a habit and at 90 days it becomes a lifestyle, and let me tell you, that is no joke. While no life is perfect, and times still get hard, there is a significant difference in how I live them, because now, when the dark days roll in, the light exists in me. I may need to allow myself to feel the present emotions of these moments, but I am better equipped to handle them, and come out the other side at a run instead of a crawl. As a whole, my steps are lighter, my thoughts are kinder, my heart is love and I am happier.

The results are quite remarkable, and it’s a journey I will never regret, especially because my biggest lesson through these last few months has been that good truly does exist. It may be in many forms, and you may have to look deeper, but it’s there, and when you walk in the good, and the more good put out into this world, the more that comes back to you.

For me, there is no doubt that the practice of conscious positivity, kindness, gratitude, love, forgiveness, dreaming, facing fears, and self-care has shifted my internal thoughts, ideas and heart to a better place, and it’s a practice that I intend to continue, and I hope you do too.

For all who have followed me from the beginning, all who joined me in the middle, and those who I have not yet met, I thank you, and I believe in you. Be the good and continue to be the amazing you.

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It is my full intention to stay the course and continue posting in the group daily, however, the format may change just a little. I know that many like a challenge, because it feels like something they can begin and end, a task they must fulfill for the day, and it’s something they can mark off the list, I would like to get away from that label, and call it “Finding You, One Day at a Time”. There are so many components to what makes you the you that you are meant to be, and happiness is only one of them.

It is also my plan to begin sharing my stepping stones to this place in my life after years of sadness, anger, blame and rebellion. I have learned through this process that while we all love to hear what we should practice, we are even more encouraged to act when we hear why we should practice.

I hope you stay tuned, as one door closes and another one opens…Welcome to Positively Love, Scene 2319, Take 40, Finding You, One Day at a Time… 😊

Much Love,

Lisa J.

FINDING HAPPY, ONE DAY AT A TIME POSITIVITY & GOALS – WEEK THREE

It’s a few days late, but the message is all the same! Have a wonderful week finding happy one day at a time!

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Week Three already! that’s too crazy to me. It’s been a busy week with chasing dreams and make lists and taking steps towards our goals!! I’m so excited you are following along and hope you continue to make steps toward the definition of your happy and never stop believing in the you that is amazing.

Some of you may be at a point of asking yourselves or me why I do this and is it making a difference? Truthfully, when I’m asked these questions, I smile before I respond because as I contemplate my answer, I can actually picture in my mind how I feel writing these posts. I can honestly say, that writing this, writing every week to remind you that you are amazing makes my heart full of happy, and if I can put out even a small percentage of what I’m feeling back into the universe, and into the lives of those who read this, I feel I am on the right path for me. I write as a reminder to you that that the feeling I explain is absolutely without a doubt possible for you too. You are amazing, and you have abilities beyond your understanding, and I will continue to remind you of that every day.

So this week, while I still want to focus on our goals and positive thinking, I’d like to sprinkle in some gratitude and kindness along the way. We can never be too thankful for the goodness in each of our lives and you can never be too kind to those around you. Small, large, quiet or dramatic, we all have blessings that fill our lives with love, joy, laughter and happiness. Let’s take a day or EVERY day this week and reflect on each one and remember that no matter how we may be feeling, even a glimmer of light and hope is a glimmer and that is something to be grateful for.

So here we are, week three. Let’s begin…

Day 1 – Monday

Get Out Those Journals for Some Gratitude. We’ve started each week in September with our journals, so I figured why not keep to the tradition. Let’s take a flashback to last month and make a list of all you are grateful for today. These can be as simple as your hot coffee, but be grateful for all of the perfect, imperfect, crazy, calm things in your life. Each and every aspect brings something important whether it is a lesson not yet learned or the piece that finishes your puzzle. Gratitude will fill your heart with love and allow you to move through the day with a  gentle stride.

Day 2-Tuesday

Take a Step Toward Something on Your Bucket List.  Just like acknowledging and writing down your goals, it’s only a list if you don’t take steps toward it. You’ve listed items that you want to accomplish before you leave this earth, now look at that list, take it in, pick one and make one baby step or the whole plan toward accomplishing it. Research the how, and make a plan! Your time to start is now!!

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Day 3-Wednesday

Sprinkle Some Kindness. Today let’s sprinkle some kindness and give out some compliments!! Tell someone how their smile brightens your day or how their shoes are cute or you appreciate them. Sprinkle some kindness today and not only will you make someone else’s day you’ll make yours as well!!

Day 4-Thursday

Acknowledge the Negative and Detox. Last week we discussed acknowledging a bad habit and making steps toward squashing it. This week, I’m going to discuss something a little more difficult, people. Do you ever leave a conversation with someone and feel worse about yourself and your situation than you did before? Is there someone in your life that does nothing but bring you down with their negative energy making you feel exhausted after talking to them? If so, it’s time to acknowledge it and set boundaries and possibly permanent ones. You are allowed to be happy and if someone is taking that from you, you are allowed to stop it. If you don’t have this in your life, that’s awesome, today, focus on breaking a bad habit.

Day 5-Friday

Do Something Healthy for Your Body. Yep, I think I’m making this an every week think 😉 Get yourself moving, drink more water, eat a little healthier, drink alcohol a little less. As I say, baby steps are still steps. Now that you’ve been doing it every week, maybe set a goal, like train for a 5k or adding another day on the calendar to run or workout or just take a walk. I can’t repeat it enough your physical health is important to your mental health and with the gloomier days of winter around the corner, there’s no better way to ward off the blues than getting the blood flowing.

Day 6-Saturday

Give Back/Volunteer/Pay it Forward. It’s Saturday and you know what that means!! It’s a fantastic day to give back. This is a weekly task and will continue to be for good reason. When we give back to others the feeling that fills you up is inexplainable. It is a completely different level of happy because you are giving happy to another. This can be done simply, or it can be dedicated time in the day, however you want to do it, but do something for someone else today, without expecting anything in return.

**Remember, these acts of kindness do not have to be extravagant. Pay for a coffee, carry some groceries, donate, volunteer or just be kind without expecting anything in return.

Day 7-Sunday

Reflection/Self-Care. Love this day. Today is the day to connect with your why and your inner thoughts and emotions. Today is the day to remember the amazing person you are. Spend this day to take a moment to reflect on your week, and on why you chose to practice positive. Use this day to meditate, pray, read, sleep, or just sit in the quiet to calm your mind, hear your heart, and connect to yourself so you are ready for the week ahead. I know life can get busy, but please do not skip this day, it’s so very important for your well-being and for your soul.

***Please share some good books, I’m looking for a new one to read!!

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You have choices in your life and you are in control of your feelings, your reactions and your path.  Choose kindness, choose gratitude and choose YOU because you deserve it. Don’t be afraid of change, don’t be afraid of dreaming and don’t be afraid to be the true you. Spread the love and know you are loved😊

As usual, I will be posting on the Finding Happy One Day at a Time Facebook Page throughout the week to check in on you all and would love to hear from you so don’t be shy!! Keep writing in your journals, it’s so important!! Thank you for sticking with me or just joining me on this journey, it is my hope to persuade you to alter your thoughts, even a little, in a more positive direction, while you help me find my happy too!!

Much Love,

Lisa

 

FINDING HAPPY, ONE DAY AT A TIME POSITIVITY & GOALS – WEEK TWO

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Welcome Back Everyone!! So happy to have you with me on this journey and cannot wait to share my secret with you this week. This project, Finding Happy, has profoundly impacted my life in such a positive way that I have to tell you something that you may not know. All of this – the blog, the posts, the videos, the putting myself out there and challenging myself every day are steps toward my happy, and a piece of my definition of that happy is fulfilling my dream of writing a book. My secret, is that each step has most definitely not been planned, detailed or even completely thought out. You know why? Not that it doesn’t take some planning, dedication or work, because it does, but sometimes you cannot plan on how dreams unfold, and if you just surrender to the possibilities, your intuition or gut, instead of controlling every twist and turn, if it was meant to be, I unshakably believe, it will be 😊

This week I want to talk more about your dreams, your goals and how if we see ourselves in our minds eye living out those dreams, they will come into our lives if they were meant to happen. Whether it’s psychological, cosmic or the path of our life that progressively shows itself to us as we walk our journey, if we dream, we can choose to make those dreams come alive. When I first started this blog, I didn’t have an outline or a plan, there are days when I start to write and have no idea what I’m going to say (like today), but somehow it comes to me. I was meant to write and although there have been struggles with self-doubt, I relentlessly keep coming back and each time it just gets better. I now guest post on a wonderful blog, a positive website, and my own site is gaining traction and followers, on top of all the amazing connections and friends I have made along the way. All of this because I am taking one day at a time to find my happy, my voice and myself, and now wholeheartedly believe that nothing is impossible.

Don’t ever feel your dreams are too big or too crazy and don’t EVER give up on your goals or yourself. Follow your heart, ignite your spark and allow it to burn with passion. Someone told me one time that someone once said, we know when we have found our passion when we are willing to do it for free…My wish for you is to find that passion or that dream, whatever it may be!!!

With that said, let’s start off our week with another list so you can see your dreams on paper and realize that you can make them happen…

Day 1 – Monday

Get Out Those Journals. I know we started last Monday with our journals and feel its not a bad way begin. This week however, instead of goals for yourself, make a Bucket List. List the things you want to do, see, say or experience before you leave this world. Do you want to see the Grand Canyon, swim with dolphins, sky dive, visit a foreign country, drink a beer at an Irish Pub, see the aurora borealis, lay under a star lit sky just because, walk a black sand beach or attend a yoga retreat, write it down. Write a list of at least ten and if there is more, keep writing. You can say one day, one day I will…when the time is right, but the time to acknowledge your bucket list is now. Write it down, hang it up, keep it to yourself, but acknowledge your dreams and then just like with your goals, take small steps every day closer to one of those dreams.

Day 2-Tuesday

Acknowledge a Negative in Your Life and Let it. We all have bad habits, we all carry negatives around that snuff out the light in our lives, sometimes without us even realizing. It could be a that we drink too much, we smoke when we don’t even want to, we watch too much mindless TV or we are judgmental to others. Pick just one, focus on it and list reasons why you do it and reason why you shouldn’t and study your answers. Then, think about how this habit positively affects your life. If it doesn’t, make a plan to remove it. This may not be as easy as I make it sound, but sometimes all it takes is to see how this habit negatively affects your life to choose to change it. Much luck on this one, I know it can be challenging, but I believe in you.

Day 3-Wednesday

Do Something Healthy for Your Body. This kinda of goes hand in hand with yesterday, but it’s a good one! I know you thought this one was over since we did this last month, but surprise. Get up, get moving or chose to eat healthy, even if it’s just for today. Baby steps are still steps. Go for a walk, take a class, go to the Y and swim some laps. Your physical health is important to your mental health and the more we take the steps to make it important the more it becomes important, and soon it’s a positive, healthy habit instead of a forced one.

Day 4-Thursday

Take Steps Toward a Goal. Okay, now that you’ve acknowledged your goals on your vision board, go take a long look at it. Take it in and pick one of those goals and sit down and think about what it would take to reach that goal. Once you’ve wrapped your head around it, write them down, then work on accomplishing the first step on that list. Don’t overwhelm yourself, it only needs to be a baby step, but a baby step is still a step in the direction of your ultimate goal. You got this!

Day 5-Friday

Pick a Space and Make it Positive. Last week we uncluttered a space, this week, let’s make a space ours. When I decided to change the atmosphere of my cubicle at work to a positive one, the mood within the hours and days spent at that desk shifted. It’s brighter, calmer and positive. Pick a space whether it be a bedroom, bathroom, office or cubicle and change it. Change the color, make it yours, make it reflect a happy space, a space you can’t wait to spend time in. Sometimes all we need is a little change to shift our moods. Today, pick that space and shift with a little change of surroundings.

Day 6-Saturday

Give Back/Volunteer/Pay it Forward. It’s Saturday and you know what that means!! It’s a fantastic day to give back. This is a weekly task and will continue to be for good reason. When we give back to others the feeling that fills you up is inexplainable. It is a completely different level of happy because you are giving happy to another. This can be done simply, or it can be dedicated time in the day, however you want to do it, but do something for someone else today, without expecting anything in return.

**Remember, these acts of kindness do not have to be extravagant. Pay for a coffee, carry some groceries, donate, volunteer or just be kind without expecting anything in return.

Day 7-Sunday

Reflection/Self-Care. Love this day. Today is the day to connect with your why and your inner thoughts and emotions. Today is the day to remember the amazing person you are. Spend this day to take a moment to reflect on your week, and on why you chose to practice positive. Use this day to meditate, pray, read, sleep, or just sit in the quiet to calm your mind, hear your heart, and connect to yourself so you are ready for the week ahead. I know life can get busy, but please do not skip this day, it’s so very important for your well-being and for your soul.

***Please share some good books, I’m looking for a new one to read!!

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Choose positive, choose kindness, choose gratitude and choose to have an amazing day every day this week. Don’t look away from your dreams, follow your heart and believe in yourself. You truly are amazing and capable of amazing things. Allow yourself to shine and you may surprise yourself 😊

As usual, I will be posting on the Finding Happy One Day at a Time Facebook Page throughout the week to check in on you all and would love to hear from you so don’t be shy!! Keep writing in your journals, it’s so important!! Thank you for sticking with me or just joining me on this journey, it is my hope to persuade you to alter your thoughts, even a little, in a more positive direction, while you help me find my happy too!!

Much Love,

Lisa

FINDING HAPPY, ONE DAY AT A TIME – Positivity & Goals – Week One

goals and dreamsHi Everyone!! Welcome to another month of Finding Happy, One Day at a Time. For those who joined me last month, welcome back and to those who are just joining me, I’m so happy you’re here!! If you’re curious what this is exactly, and why I began this journey, you can read about it here. I am a true believer in the pursuit of happiness and that to find it you must begin with you.

We all have the power and the ability to choose, and we can choose negativity, we can choose isolation, and we can choose to react in anger, jealously or hatred – we control our thoughts and our actions, but what would happen if we chose positivity, acceptance, forgiveness, love and faith. How would that change your moment, your day or your life? Would it? Short answer, yes it would, but its up to you to choose to find out if I’m right 😊

This blog and these posts are little reminders for you every day to consciously choose the path that fills your heart with joy. When we make a conscious effort toward happy, a crazy thing happens, we actually start to feel happier. When we train ourselves to see the good and the light over an over, we soon don’t need to be reminded, and our life is surrounded by good and light. Please understand, I am not trying to sell you the idea that life will forever be filled with sunshine and rainbows if you buy into what I’m putting out there, that’s not realistic. Life throws up curveballs and chaos, but just maybe by filling our lives with positive choices up to those moments can allow us to more easily navigate them and give us the faith to believe that the darkness will pass.

Last month we focused on Gratitude and Kindness and it was eye-opening, exciting and fun. While these are two extremely important aspects of happiness in your life and some of the tasks from last month will be sprinkled into this month, in September our main focus will be flipping our negative thoughts to positive and reflecting on our goals, small and large. Infusing more positivity in our days and being honest with ourselves in what we want out of our day, year and life can help us to even more define what happiness means to us. While this month may be a little more challenging, that’s good. If we don’t challenge ourselves there is no change and without change, no matter how small, we stay exactly the same, and you wouldn’t be here if that was your goal 😊

As we begin this month, I want to give you a quick reminder that you are capable of whatever you put your mind to, whether it be finding happy or reaching every goal you have on your list because we were put on this earth with a purpose, and you are amazing. So, let’s get started…

Day 1 – Monday

Get Out Those Journals. If you followed last month, you should have a designated journal where you defined your personal happiness, if you’re new, that’s your homework. Find a journal or a notebook and define what happiness means to you, and don’t hold back, really reflect on it.

For everyone, take today to consciously and intentionally think about your goals for your life, big and small. Be it, career, relationship or personal. They can be small every day goals, like clean a closet, quit smoking, start exercising, or on a larger scale, like traveling, retiring or starting your own business. Make two lists, short term and long term, and challenge yourself to get at least 10 each.

There are goals in our life that we don’t even realize we have until we make ourselves sit and reflect and BE HONEST with ourselves. What do you want out of your life? There are no crazy ideas, no unreachable goals, we all have the ability, we just need to choose to take the steps to make it happen.

Day 2-Tuesday

Flip a Negative Thought to a Positive One. Seems so silly right?! But you’d be so surprised how many times a day those nasty negatives creep into our mind. These sound familiar? “Well, that’s nice, but..”, “That’s so exciting, but I bet it won’t happen…” “I’d love to meet them, but…what if,”, “They just look mean, stuck up, full of themselves…” “OMG they won’t shut up…”, “I’m sure they don’t like me”, “I really want to apply for that job, but…” Believe me if you really listen to yourself, these thoughts are consistently running through your mind and the “buts” are the most prominent.

Be conscious of these thoughts and make yourself change at least 1-3 today. Every time you catch yourself having a negative thought try to flip it to positive. “That’s so nice, I wonder how I can thank them”, “That’s so exciting, when that happens, this is what I’ll do”, “I’d love to meet them, maybe they can help me with this problem”, “They really must need someone to listen, and I’m happy I’m here to do just that”, “I know I’m a good person”, “I’m going to apply for that job”. Change the conversation in your head, and you will change your attitude and your day.

Day 3-Wednesday

Make a Vision/Dream Board. This is a fun one. Get yourself a poster board, a dry erase, a cork board or an 8×10 sheet of paper and break out your goal list. This may seem elementary, but it is truly valuable to see what you want instead of just thinking it. Cut out pictures, quotes and images and tape them, pin them, or glue them to your board. Each image you choose should correlate with one or more of your listed goals. When you see what it is you are taking steps to accomplish it is imprinted in your mind and it becomes even more exciting then just writing it down. The board can be as big or as small as you want it to be, but the bigger the better. Keep it in a place you can see it every day, as a reminder of your dreams and believe me no dream is too big!!

Day 4-Thursday

Unclutter Something. Clutter is a big reason for stress. When our space is a mess, our mind is a mess and it can take a toll on our mentality and how we approach our day or even those we love. I don’t know about everyone else, but I like to hide my messes. I have clutter that you don’t see, but I know in the back of my mind it is there. Closets, drawers and under the bed, are my most common hiding places. I always say I’ll get to it, but until I hit my breaking point, I just don’t. Today make a conscious effort to unclutter a hiding place. If you make yourself start, make yourself finish, and the feeling of relief, elation and satisfaction will lower the stress level and shine a little more light into your day. Believe me it’s like therapy when I finally make myself unclutter my space.

Day 5-Friday

Celebrate the Small Things. It’s so funny how when we want something so bad, we have our eyes fixed so much on the finale that we have blinders on to the small things that are leading us there. Today make a conscious effort to recognize the small victories. Maybe you didn’t get that promotion you were waiting for, but maybe you were offered some invaluable advise and made important contacts along the way, or maybe you realized that it wasn’t your goal after all, celebrate that; Maybe your kid didn’t get their chores done but it was because you sat and had an hour conversation with them about their day (even if it was a stall tactic on their part), celebrate that; Maybe you haven’t reached that physical goal you set for yourself months ago, but you are on a consistent routine that you were not on when you set that goal, celebrate that. Celebrate the steps, the small stuff and what you may consider inconveniences. When we celebrate our steps to the finish line it’s so much sweeter when we get there.

On a side note, Friday is the designated Dance Day!! Dance in celebration, to relieve stress, to laugh, to get through a tough time or just because, just DANCE, because it’s fun and I guarantee it will bring a smile to your face.

Day 6-Saturday

Give Back/Volunteer/Pay it Forward. Last month Saturday was pay it forward days, and we will continue that tradition. Saturdays are a fantastic day to give back. This is a weekly task and for good reason. When we give back to others the feeling that fills you up is inexplainable. It is a completely different level of happy because you are giving happy to another. This can be done simply, or it can be dedicated time in the day, however you want to do it, but do something for someone else today, without expecting anything in return.

**These acts of kindness do not have to be extravagant. Pay for a coffee, carry some groceries, donate, volunteer or just be kind without expecting anything in return.

Day 7-Sunday

Reflection/Self-Care. Love this day. It’s so important to practice self-care and connecting with your why and your inner thoughts and emotions. Spend this day to take a moment to reflect on your week, and on why you chose to practice positive. Use this day to meditate, pray, read, sleep, or just sit in the quiet to calm your mind, hear your heart, and connect to yourself so you are ready for the week ahead. I know life can get busy, but please do not skip this day, it’s so very important for your well-being and for your soul.

***Please share some good books, I’m looking for a new one to read!!

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I’m so very excited for this month!! When we are in our life routines sometimes we forget that we have dreams and goals that we put to the side or on the back burner. Bringing these ideas and thoughts to the surface reminds us that we are allowed to dream, and anything is possible. There is no dream too big, too small or too crazy, nothing is impossible, and we can choose to chase our aspirations or allow the negative thoughts to overcome us. Set your intentions, make up your mind to be positive about what you want out of life, make a spark and then ignite your fire. Your goals are your goals, and nobody can tell you not to dream.

As usual, I will be posting on the Finding Happy One Day at a Time Facebook Page throughout the week to check in on you all and would love to hear from you so don’t be shy!! Keep writing in your journals, it’s so important!! Thank you for sticking with me or just joining me on this journey, it is my hope to persuade you to alter your thoughts, even a little, in a more positive direction, while you help me find my happy too!!

Much Love,

Lisa

Patience Will Get You There Quicker

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The art of patience was always a mystery to me. I walked through this life expecting immediate answers and quick action. I never thought of it as impatience, to me, this was responsible, dependable and what was expected. If you got instant results you were successful, and you were on the best path for you. It took a whole lot of life to teach me my philosophy was dead wrong.

I was and I’m really working on not being the most impatient person that walks the earth. No joke, I watch for the water to boil, or check my email a hundred times, and refresh a hundred and one. I have always felt I had to have instant results, instant response, instant reaction. Then, if I didn’t get what I was waiting for in that timeframe, I would get anxious and angry and the conversation in my head would swirl with doubt and disappointment. Most of the time these moments would involve me putting myself out there for interviews, publication, critique or grades, but sometimes my anxiety would sprinkle a little fun on my already impatient mind and take my worry to a whole new level.

I can still hear it now  “what if they didn’t get what I was trying to say”, “what if they don’t like me”, “what if I offended them, oh god, what if I offended them”, “what if something is wrong”, “maybe I was wrong”, “what if they’re hurt, or worse”, “maybe I’m not good enough”, and as time ticked by the anger would turn to sadness, and the conversation went more like “yeah, I definitely wasn’t good enough”, “I suck at everything, I’m never gonna make it”, “I’m just not pretty, or cute or fun or nice or sweet, or worth it…..”. My impatience turned into so much more than watching water boil and I sabotaged myself before I gave myself or anyone, for that matter, a chance and I’d give up, pretend I didn’t care and quit.

You see, my impatience was not just irritation at red lights, or slow check out lines, my impatience ran to a deeper level, the level of acceptance by others. It needed to be instant, or I was panicked with doubt, and it took a long time to realize that the more patient I was with others and with me, the quicker I got where or what I was looking for.

Ironically, I began this next paragraph several days ago completely different than I am today. The point I’m attempting to make with this post and the evidence to back it, finally came to me in such an unexpected way. This evening I went digging around in my old papers looking for quotes I jotted down years ago when I first acknowledged my love of writing. Within those papers were unfinished stories, a first and last chapter of a biography, tales of my kids and pages and pages of ideas and notes. If I told you I found my passion back in 2006 it may come as a surprise or it may not, but the fact is, these papers just prove that patience is key. I did not have these notes handy the day I began this blog or my project of Finding Happy, One Day at a Time. These notes pictured were boxed away in 2009 but its clear evidence to me that if we were meant to journey down a path, we will, you just need a little patience.

Patience allowed me to soften to the possibilities of life, love, happiness and most recently, purpose. By stepping away from my keyboard I had the opportunity to reflect and discover what I may not have to finish this post, and on a bigger scale, patience has allowed me to pursue my dream without haste, which has shown to be most rewarding, follow my heart without urgency, and find my purpose in this life. What we desire and the purpose for which we live may not be revealed to us in the timeframe we believe it should, but it does not mean it fails to exist. If we are just little more patient with the process and with ourselves, where we are meant to be and what we are meant to do will be disclosed to us quicker than we can imagine.  

Much Love,

Lisa J.

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Notes from 2007 or 2009. Who knew I’d start a project in 2018 named Finding Happy, One Day at a Time.

 

FINDING HAPPY, ONE DAY AT A TIME – WEEK FIVE

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Say What?! Week Five my friends. For Five weeks you have followed me on a journey toward happy. My heart has been full and my life has been blessed with new friends, old friends and family that have reached out or posted with encouragement, stories or just their happy moments. I cannot tell you how those small gestures have brightened my days, my weeks and my month. Without you, I’d be typing and talking to myself. Once again, I thank you for your time and your support, it really has been fun and enlightening at the same time. This has been uplifting and therapeutic for me and because of you, I am all that closer to my own happy. I can only hope that I have done the same for you. From the bottom of my heart, you are my why, and my path has become so very clear. I could not be more grateful.

That being said, let’s discuss this coming week and then what comes next in this adventure toward happy. For one month I have challenged you to step out of your comfort zone, I have encouraged you to open your heart and maybe think just a little more positive. In these challenges we discussed two very important concepts and a bonus concept that can show us a path toward happiness in our lives.

1)      Gratitude – To be thankful for what is presently in our lives allows happy to enter our hearts. To be grateful for what we have, even the smallest of things, can change our mindset just enough to perceive our situation in a much brighter light, and the list of what we believe we need becomes minimal.

2)      Kindness – While this concept should be a no-brainer, there are many times in our lives that we gloss over what a simple act of kindness can accomplish. Whether it be a smile to a stranger, a compliment, inclusion, or giving back, kindness to others almost feels selfish because what you gain from it is invaluable. And as a bonus…

3)      Self-Care – Taking care of us, finding our center, praying, meditating, just taking a moment for you is not something we think of often, but is so very important. Please remember not to neglect yourselves while you take care of your responsibilities, because accomplishing all we need and want to do on an empty tank takes its toll. Self-care will give you the time you need to take on your days as the best version of you.

While we only have five days left of the month, the first two days of September fall on a Saturday and a Sunday, which is lovely timing to continue with Give Back Saturdays and Self-Care Sundays. Continuing these significant steps will solidify our habit of helping others and ourselves. While our month of Gratitude and Kindness has been a beautiful month, I ask that you stick with me because this coming month we will focus on our Goals and Positivity. Asking you to step a little more out of your comfort zone, we explore our thought processes, how we can change them from negative to positive and what exactly, or not exactly but close, we want out of our life. What is it that we want to accomplish while we live our best life and how this is included in our definition of happy. We will dive more into that after this week, but I hope you tag along, because as I learn about myself, I encourage you to learn about yours.

And now, for Week Five, let’s make it as amazing as you!!

Day 1 – Monday

Splurge on Something for You. Today is the first day of the last tasks in the month of Gratitude and Kindness. So, today thank yourself and be kind to yourself by splurging on something for You! Treat yourself to something you love… it doesn’t have to be extravagant, it can be a coke, flowers for the table, chocolate covered peanuts, your favorite coffee or the new book you’ve been spying. You’ve been working hard to train your mind, now reward yourself, you deserve it! We get so wrapped up in our busy lives and daily routine sometimes we forget it’s ok to treat ourselves. Make the conscious effort today to do just that!

Day 2-Tuesday

Call or Meet a Family Member or a Friend. Reach out to those you love and continue the connection that sometimes we take for granted. Call the friend you’ve been thinking about and keep saying you want to get back in touch with, the old co-worker you’ve been missing and wonder what they are up to, or the family member that you haven’t seen in a long time but know it would take just a phone call to set up a lunch, dinner or drinks. Don’t wait, don’t procrastinate, call, text, message them. They are probably thinking of you too, don’t pass up that moment for a chance to reconnect.

Day 3-Wednesday

Do Something Healthy for Your Body. Yep, this day is back, and you know you just couldn’t wait!! I really hope that this week you are looking forward to getting outside, taking a class, hitting the pavement or jumping on the bike. I express the importance every week and it’s no lie, physical and mental health are concepts of the same idea, one is the foundation for the other. Get up, get out and treat yourself to some endorphins, it will be fun! If you’re looking for something routine, and you’re local, give me a shout, there’s a 5k training program starting next week, you really should check out (come walk/run with me and my tribe)!

Day 4-Thursday

Think of 5 things you are grateful for, and, of course, you can’t use the same ones from the past weeks. After you do this, you should have a list of 15 small and big things that you are thankful for in your life. That is extremely powerful. Read them, reflect on all that you have in your life and all the good that surrounds you, and smile, because now every time you feel a little down, you can open your journal and see the beautiful that exists within your world.

Day 5-Friday

Reflect on this Past Month. Today is the last day of the month and a perfect time to sit down, take out your journals, flip to the first page and read back your definition of happy. Think about how you felt that first day, and about how you feel today. Is there a difference, do you feel a shift, and do you believe you have stepped any closer to your definition? Write it all down, what you feel helped you, what may not have helped, what you skipped and wished you didn’t, or how proud of yourself you are for taking steps to open your heart to the possibility of happy, because I am.

Anyone who puts down their ego and allows themselves to change their thinking even if it’s just a little, should be incredibly proud of themselves because it is a challenge, a challenge you accepted and because of that may have found a little more happiness in your life. Now, be proud, feel accomplished and Go Dance!!

Day 6-Saturday

Give Back/Volunteer/Pay it Forward. You know the drill!! Just like the past weeks, Saturdays are a fantastic day to give back. This is a weekly task and for good reason. When we give back to others the feeling that fills you up is inexplainable. It is a completely different level of happy because you are giving happy to another. This can be done simply, or it can be dedicated time in the day, however you want to do it, but do something for someone else today, without expecting anything in return.

**If you have any ideas for this week, please do not hesitate to drop it in the comments or post it on the page! And please, share, share, we love to hear about how you are spreading the love and the happiness!!

Day 7-Sunday

Reflection/Self-Care. Can’t forget this day, it’s a staple, because it’s so very important. Spend this day to take a moment to reflect on your week, on your thoughts and on your emotions. Use this day to meditate, pray, read, sleep, or just sit in the quiet to calm your mind, hear your heart, and connect to yourself so you are ready for the week ahead. I know life can get busy, but please do not skip this day, it’s so very important for your well-being and for your soul.

***Suggestions for meditations, books or affirmations? I love to hear what works for everyone, please share!!

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I cannot say enough how incredibly grateful I am for all who have read the posts, participated either actively online or privately, and have stuck with me through this indescribable journey. If you continue to follow, I’m overjoyed, if not, I hope you choose happy for you, you continue to spread kindness and love, and you take care of you, so you can then walk this earth as the best version of you.

May you be blessed in the path you take, and in the incredible life you live, as you all deserve happy in all aspects of your life, don’t ever forget that and remember to smile, because you are amazing!

Much Love,

Lisa

God’s Groceries

give backWhen I first began Finding Happy…One Day at a Time, my intention was to inspire others to find a little joy in their lives every day. I was a fitness challenge junkie and a positive psychology enthusiast and thought why not somehow meld the two together. Taking a page from my physical training to someway impact my mental training, I started the calendar of daily activities to remind those who joined me to consciously choose positive, kindness, self-care and happy. I never realized that implementing this program to help others would positively affect me as deeply has it has. While being grateful, exercising and spreading kindness have all altered my thinking to be on a more positive path, giving back has humbled me to where my steps are lighter and my heart is open.

Giving back, paying it forward or volunteering has been a weekly calendared task that I haven’t missed since I began this journey. Before this conscious effort to give back, I had volunteered mostly with the animal shelters, but it had been some time since I actively made the effort. So, I have made it a point each week to find a different charity or volunteer event to participate in, and have to say there has not been a lack of choices. Thanks to our local community site Hometown Happenings and the inspiration behind the site, Tim Fealy, we have had our pick of events. Each week I am blessed to have the opportunity to be part of these incredible groups of people who make it their mission to do what I have to make a conscious effort to do, and this week was no different.

St. Mary’s is a church that is literally a block away from where I have lived for several years, and this past week was the first I heard that they ran a food pantry. Every third Saturday of the month they open their doors for those in need and ingeniously call this program “God’s Groceries”. The name, the people and the atmosphere of positivity and love was such a force that I couldn’t help but be moved. As a surprise to all who came out for groceries this past Saturday, free breakfast of eggs, sausage, potatoes, fruit and pastries was served, and I had the privilege of being a part of it. I was in awe of those in charge, enlightened by those who helped, and humbled by those who, no matter the hardship, came to breakfast with a smile and gratitude.

Times like these, are times that words cannot describe. The collaboration of a community, the unity of ideas and new friends, and the art of giving back is something we need a little more of in this world. If I can give no other advise, it would be to do something for your fellow humans without the expectation of something in return. We all have challenges, we all have difficulties in our lives, and we all have the ability to spread joy to others. So, choose joy, choose kindness, choose love, it will reap rewards that you may not be able to touch but you will feel deep in your soul, and can open you up to a heart full of happy.

Just a few pictures of the amazing people (and new friends) I had the privilege of spending my morning with 🙂 

If you would like to donate to God’s Groceries, St. Mary accepts non-perishable food donations all year round, you can either message me or Hometown Happenings for more details.

On another note, I would love the opportunity to write about the different charities in the area and would like to spotlight them a couple times a month on my blog and social media. I couldn’t believe I wasn’t aware of God’s Groceries and would love to get the word out of the wonderful programs available for those in need. If you know of events, programs or opportunities to give back, please share I’d love to give a shout out. Also, if you don’t want to miss a post follow me at www.positively-love.com!

Much Love,

Lisa