Thoughts are Powerful

I had someone ask me yesterday my best tips to boost confidence. I smiled because never did I think I would be one to give out tips on confidence, and I was humbled by the question. It is true that I’ve never been more comfortable in my own skin and fear is no longer in the driver seat, but what could I share to help on those days when your confidence is shaky.

After some thought I realized I may have a few tips to share. While it’s taken a lot of self reflection and internal reworking for long term change, there are several practices that have helped me tremendously along the way. First one is music.

Music for me is a source of inspiration, motivation and joy. It’s a way to reach my soul without even knowing, and when I need to feel whatever I am feeling in that moment music is my conductor.

However to build my confidence I relied heavily on my inner thoughts and how I spoke to myself. Daily reminders or positive affirmations were key to how I was going to hold my head that day.

Start your day with an “I am” statement and repeat it over and over until all of a sudden you deeply believe it.

I am good

I am loving

I am confident

I am strong

I am loved

I am capable

I am honest

I am proud

I am going to be ok

These are powerful because your thoughts become your beliefs and when you believe you are, you will be.

Everyday brought new challenges and everyday I reminded myself who I am in my heart, and soon I would end my day with “I will” statements.

I will be gentle with myself

I will forgive

I will be grateful

I will love

I will follow my dreams

I will succeed

I will accomplish all my heart desires

And soon, I started doing all those things and my life began to shift. I still have to remind myself some days but it’s not as difficult to bounce back because the belief instilled in me of all I am worth and all that I am surfaces quicker.

Thoughts are powerful especially when we use them for good 🧡 remind yourself just how incredible you are everyday and soon you will believe it so deeply that no one and nothing can take it from you 🦋🧡

It’s Your Path in Your Time-Don’t Compare it to Others

In a recent conversation with a friend, the subject of how easy it is to compare ourselves to others came up. We talked about how when we look at something that someone else has accomplished, especially if we have a similar dream, it feels natural to wonder how they climbed the mountain of success, how we can do it like them or even why we haven’t.

This is a vice for many, and a dark tunnel I entered many times through my journey, sometimes so focused on someone else’s happy ending, I lost sight of my own. While every now and then I find myself staring into the dark once again, I now close my eyes and realize what I learned from my past lessons.

That there is much more to someone’s back story then we will ever know, and each of us not only has a unique script, but a time for it to be told. 🧡

While we may all picture similar paths for ourselves, not one us accomplishes this life the same, not one of us is passionate for the same reason or dreams the same way. Each of us are unique, because each of us bring something spectacular to the table in our own perfect time.

Don’t compare yourself to those around you, believe in the uniqueness of your story, shine the light only you possess and walk the path only you were meant to, because the mountain may be steep, but it’s yours and yours alone, and it will be worth the climb. 🦋🧡

Have a beautiful day!

Admit When You Are Wrong

Forgiveness, a piece of the journey in the puzzle of life that can be difficult from all angels, but so vital for well being.

While forgiving others and yourself are two very important aspects of forgiveness there is one step beforehand that can potentially throw you for a loop.

Admitting you may have hurt someone you care about in the first place.

I think if you ask my parents what the most stubborn feature of my personality was growing up, admitting that I was wrong is up there high on the list, if not number one. However it had also been one of my biggest lessons in this life, learning to take a good look at my own actions, owning them and then apologizing for them.

Asking for forgiveness is critical, but we must admit we misspoke, misstepped or hurt someone in the first place to do so, intentional or not. And, while it’s a difficult concept to swallow, it’s incredible growth when you realize the bridges it can mend and the peace it can bring into your life and to those around you.

Forgiveness is freeing, but remember to take a good look at yourself and understand that in order to take that jump we must first step into responsibility of our own actions.

Be honest with yourself and others and you will find peace in your heart 🧡 Have an amazing day!

Walk Gentle, Love Deeply & Appreciate Every Moment

Today I am reminded just how precious life is 🧡 walk gently, be kind, love with all of your heart and be grateful for this amazing life 🦋

Unplug

Take a day to check in with yourself, to calm the mind, reflect on the heart and center your intentions. Some times we are overwhelmed and don’t even realize it, and it can take a toll on us mentally, emotional and physically. 🧡

Self-care is not a selfish request from yourself, but a necessary one. Rejuvenate all that makes you tick by unplugging from all that fills your thoughts, even for a moment. Remind yourself to breathe, fill your lungs, and then take on the the week with fresh eyes and an open heart.

Unplug and re-center for you, so you can accomplish all you dream as the best version of you 🦋🧡

Have an incredible day!

Quiet the Devil Inside

I’m sure I am not alone when I reveal that one of my biggest struggles throughout my life has been self-doubt. And, as an added bonus being an over thinker by nature allowed for deep conversations with myself on how many different ways I wasn’t good enough. I believe we are the best at beating ourselves up because we are our own easiest target.

Acknowledging the self defeating voices in my head and learning to quiet them has been one of my most difficult lessons and one that I work on daily. However, when I succeed and I clear away the self doubting fog, the road to my dreams begins to pave its own way. 🧡

You will face this battle more than one time in your journey toward you, and it will make you question all that you have done and all you want to do, but you must quiet the devil inside who attempts to stop you from being who you are meant to be, and listen to those who love you, and listen to the heart that drives you as they whisper that you are enough.

We are all meant for greatness whatever the definition for that may be for us, and when we believe that for ourselves, anything is possible 🦋🧡

Have a beautiful day and remember you are enough!

Define Your Happy and Walk Toward It

Every persons’ definition of happy may hold a different meaning. I feel it’s important that you recognize what that meaning is for you and once you have defined it, understand that it is up to you to walk toward it.

It’s so very easy to blame those around us or circumstances we find ourselves in for our happiness. What we do not always realize is that we have control of nothing but our inner voice and a choice. A choice to make our lives more amazing than we thought possible.

Your happiness depends on you, and while it may not always be clear or it may seem like a dark path to walk, when we realize the light comes from within, the search for it elsewhere is no longer required.

Your happiness resides with you 🧡 have an amazing day 🦋🧡