As we live our every day life, many times we walk with our heads down, determined to be undistracted and focused on plans for our own success. In this practice it’s common to “miss” things including the beauty that surrounds us. 🧡
While it is important to dream and to make steps toward these dreams, don’t forget to pick up your head and not only see the beauty in those around you, but the beauty within.
Remember to check in with yourself and remind yourself how incredible you are, that you are worth every amazing thing that life brings you, and that each challenge is helping you grow into who you are, and then go out and remind others of the same.
If you see their beauty, their success, their love, their generosity or their need to know just how wonderful they are, tell them.
They may not know it themselves, and just one small gesture, or one small word of encouragement from you may be the only one they hear, and may help them remember, not just that moment, not just that day but possibly their lifetime 🦋🧡
Choose Kindness, and tell someone how beautiful they are today!
There is nothing like being in the presence of incredibly positive and inspirational people. I am overly blessed to have so many friends and family that excite my soul so much that it makes me want to do more, be more, climb more and just give more. 🧡
Surround yourself with people who spark that light in you, who emit an energy that’s so intoxicating you forget about your fears and can’t wait to shout your dreams from the mountaintop. Those are your people, that is your tribe, spend time in those vibes as much as possible and just watch how you shine. 🦋🧡
As we walk through the journey of life we will experience the presence of many different people who will touch our hearts in numerous ways. Some are with us from birth and some enter our story in different chapters, however each of them can bring a kaleidoscope of inspiration, disappointment, joy, heartache, happiness and pain. Those who bring us joy, those who show us happiness, are those that allow this journey toward purpose and peace simple and effortless. However, realistically, there will be disappointment and we will feel pain, and the source may be from those we love.
The pain that they may bring, the heartache they may cause and the disappointment you may feel can bring you to your knees, question your faith and, at times, destroy your hope. It is our most human trait to believe in the purity of love. We are wired to believe that if one loves another, they will not cause the other harm. When that trust is shattered, to believe again seems like a pointless endeavor. I know this, I’ve felt this, and I’ve wanted to pretend that the pain was a figment of my imagination. In response, my heart hardened, and my world may have been darker, but the path was smoother, risk-free with no cliffs, no valleys and no chance of falling again. The loneliness and the pain that came when the center of my being shut down was something I never expected.
The pain of shutting off and closing my heart to just walk this earth without really living was a pain I didn’t realize I was feeling, but when I did, I knew it was not a path I wanted to travel. For so long I didn’t want to believe that those who happened to enter my life were imperfectly human, yet they are human. They are breathing, feeling, heart-pumping humans with battles within themselves that we are unaware, and we are not to judge. It was difficult for me to accept that each one of us is an imperfect soul that strives to piece together this puzzle of life, and that while the choice of crossing paths may not be ours, the choice to love them anyway, whether we choose to stay, or to walk away is ours to make.
I recently heard an interview where the author spoke of a conversation she had had with her priest. She asked him if he felt people do the best that they can in this life. His response led me to reassess my entire outlook on those who cross our paths. He asked, if God were to come down and tell you that these people that have hurt us, disappointed us or caused us heartache were truly doing the best they could, they were living their life the best they were capable, would your perspective change? It was a powerful concept that has been difficult for me to shake, and I have used in my process of understanding and forgiving. What if they are doing the best that they can, and while understanding may be difficult to ask, love them anyway, even if it must be from afar.
When your parents shatter the perfect image, you have carried in your mind since you were a child, love them anyway;
When your children don’t act like the perfect angels you wish them to be, love them anyway;
When your spouse/friend/partner disappoints, betrays or hurts you, love them anyway;
When family doesn’t treat you like family, love them anyway;
When the random stranger shows you nothing but angst, love them anyway;
When you cross paths with someone who emits hate, hurt and sadness, love them anyway; and
When you feel like you are not worth the effort or feel alone, love you anyway;
…because honestly, we need more love in this world.
The more love we emit, the more love we will receive. We don’t have to agree with the actions or surround ourselves with those who are blind to the beauty of this life, but we can wish them love in their hearts, and love them anyway.
Eight years ago I wrote the original version of this post. Today, with a few tweaks, bittersweet feelings and a heart overfull with love, I post it again to my strong, sweet, creative, amazing daughter on her 18th birthday. Legally, you are an adult, but you will always be my little girl.
Once Upon a Decade (+Eight) an Angel was born…
How time flies – from the moment you entered my life, the world that I knew was rocked to the core. I had been blessed with the most beautiful rose, hands so small and eyes so big. Never did I think I could love so much, never did I believe this tiny little person would change my ways, my heart and my path, and continue to do so years later. From first words to first grade, first crush to first car, everything you have done, and will do, is extraordinarily out of this universe.
My life was forever altered, and I am eternally grateful. Although I knew from the beginning I could never give you the world (as much as I want to) and I could never promise perfection, today I give you what’s in my heart.
As we celebrate your EIGH(TE)ENTH birthday, I make to you the same promises that I made the day you born, and every day since…
To always be there, whether you want me or not, big or small. I may not be able to solve whatever comes your way, and I may not always understand, but you will never need to question my presence, either by your side or in your heart;
To be that mom. Your biggest cheerleader for all that you dream of, work toward and accomplish. I will also be the quiet shoulder for the times you feel unsteady or shaken with words of comfort and encouragement;
To allow you space to make your life choices, whether it be school, career, friends or relationships, this time is yours to find your tribe, your path and your passion;
To never lose faith in who you are or what you can do. You have shown me every moment on this planet that you are capable of more than anyone will ever know, and I will never doubt your abilities, your intelligence or your heart;
To listen, discuss, debate, agree and agree to disagree with you, but no matter how heated or how controversial, I will always end the conversation with a hug;
To be your mom. Yes, you still need a mom, and wherever life may take you that is one fact that will never change;
To let go, step back, and watch you grow up into the incredible woman you were born to be, and stand in amazement as you awe the world with the light that you bring; and
To love you unconditionally with every piece of my heart, forever and always…
Happy 18th Birthday my Sweet Ms. Rose, follow your heart toward all your dreams, and may this next chapter of your life bring you more joy than you can imagine, love that fills your soul, happiness beyond measure and so much fun and laughter you never forget how amazing it and you are!!